Having the chance to speak at a celebration of life ceremony or funeral service can be both a cause for joy along with a reason to feel fear and worry. It is something that everyone may struggle with and are concerned they will do wrong. During a celebration of life service many people may have the opportunity to say some words about their loved one or the deceased. A loved one, friends, family members or parents of the deceased may want to say some words. You may not know the right thing to say or the best way to express how you are feeling, specifically your grief, and that is okay. It is completely understandable to be concerned about saying the right things during this type of ceremony.
Celebration of life events, memorial services and funerals allow guests to express their sentiments and grief, along with a way for someone to pay their respects to the deceased person. When family and friends are asked to speak at one of these ceremonies, you are given a unique opportunity to publicly express your feelings about the deceased. You may bring up old memories about your family member or loved one.
Honoring Your Loved One
Everyone may feel differently about speaking at a celebration of life service. For one person a memory may bring joy, while for others it brings sadness and the loss of a family member or loved one. Many times these feelings can range from the happiness you felt around the deceased and how the death of the person has affected you. A great way to honor a loved one is to discuss memories you had with the person, talk about who they were as a person, and make sure to bring out what their personality was like.
What is a Celebration of Life Celebration?
A celebration of life is an opportunity for family and friends to honor a loved one and celebrate the life of a person. As the name implies, you are there to celebrate the life rather than focus on the death of your loved one or the deceased person. There are many different ways to hold a celebration of life service, and much depends on the personality and preference of the family members and people involved. A celebration of life service may have some similarities as a funeral service and memorial services, but often they are different in how they are structured.
There are many different things that people can do at a celebration of life to honor the memory and life of a loved one. Some examples of celebration of life ideas that people may include are a balloon release, a board with photos, a speech or eulogy with readings or specific memories of the deceased, a memory board, and many more. Other things to consider for your celebration of life include the place or location that you will hold it, what photos to use, the time of day, the food that you will serve to everyone, a eulogy, and other ways to honor the deceased. For more ideas, please contact our office at the phone number below and we can let you know of more ideas and help you through the process.
Many people wonder what to wear to a celebration of life service. In general, it is usually appropriate to wear a similar outfit to what you would wear to a funeral or memorial service. It may also depend on what place or location the celebration of life will take place.
People attending a celebration of life may also check the invitation as it may be listed or a part of the invite. A family member or a loved one may decide to choose a certain color or theme for the attire of the celebration of life.
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Brainstorm and Write Your Thoughts Down
It can be helpful to take the time to do some research before you write and plan your eulogy or speech. It can make things easier for someone that is speaking at a celebration of life or memorial service to write down and brainstorm their thoughts. The best person to decide what you will say at a celebration of life, is you. You hold all the life memories, have spent time with the person, and hold the experiences that you had that may impact the words you want to say. You may know of a funny story, activity or experience that you want to share during your eulogy speech about your loved one or the deceased person.
Make Personal Statements during Your Speech
There is not a specific way to talk about the death of someone that will make everyone feel better during a celebration of life event. The best thing that someone can say during a speech or eulogy is using words to show that you care or that may be helpful in some way to the mourners.
Some ideas for what to say during your speech include statements of hope, a story or memory about the person, or something else that you feel is necessary to share about the deceased person. It is best not to use cliché phrases, or quotes about your experience with the death of the person or your grief. Often, sharing happy memories can be helpful for not only you but to everyone who is attending, to bring happiness around the event.
Specific Things to Say at a Celebration of Life Service
When a person cannot come up with the right type of words to say during during a eulogy, celebration of life service, memorial service, or funeral service, you can always use readings, quotes, sayings, or poems that you think reflect on the person and their life and give hope to the friends and family.
Say Something of Inspiration
While a celebration of life is an opportunity for guests to express grief of a loved one in a personal way, often it is a culturally inspired event. In some cultures a death can be a time to express extreme loss and sadness, while others view a death as an opportunity to spread joy and celebrate the life of the deceased. People may like to write down a memory of the person on a card and put it in a jar. Later, read each card with the memories out loud to the group during the event.
To prepare people that may want to share something about the deceased, ask in the event invitation that people reflect on some of their favorite memories, and if they feel comfortable, share the memory during the celebration.
Whoever the gathering of guests may be, it is their opportunity to express themselves however they would like. Everyone is different in how they process death, and writing a eulogy is often a time to discuss these feelings and memories.
Poems or Sayings
A nice option for guests to honor a loved one or family member is to use a thoughtful poem or saying during your eulogy speech at the celebration of life. If you are having trouble finding a poem or saying, you can browse the internet and find many appropriate ones that are based around a memorial or celebration of life service.
Use Quotes, Readings, or a Phrase
Using a quote, reading or phrase during your eulogy can make it easier so that you do not have to write something on your own. The type of quote or reading that you choose can be up to you. Offering condolences with the use of a quote can allow people to relate and express their emotions during the eulogy or speech.
Practice with a Best friend or Loved One
It can be extremely helpful to practice your eulogy with friends, a family member, or other people in your life that can be honest and upfront with their feedback. Others may hear something that you do not, or have insightful thoughts surrounding your eulogy or speech. A hard part about giving a speech at a celebration of life event is not knowing how you sound, and how you may come across during the funeral or celebration of life.
What is the Difference Between a Celebration of Life and a Funeral?
A celebration of life and funeral event can be similar in some ways but also may be different in how specifically they are planned. As noted above a funeral can often be a spiritually-defined transition of the deceased person, and a celebration of life is more focused on telling the story of the deceased.
Typically, a funeral event or service is centered around the body of the deceased, whether it be an open casket, or a cremation was performed. If a cremation was done, then the focus of the funeral can be around the columbarium, which is a structure for the respectful and usually public storage of funerary urns, holding cremated remains of the deceased.
A Celebration of Life with Eternally Loved
Eternally Loved is an event company that offers many services for friends and family of a loved one who are looking to plan a memorial, funeral or celebration of life event for a deceased person. Every memorial event that we plan for guests is focused around the life of the deceased, and is centered around memories, love and devotion for the person.
Our goal with every gathering and event we plan is to celebrate and honor the best way that you see fit. We can help with finding the right location or place to hold the service, gathering information from everyone involved, photos and other helpful tools that will help us best plan your celebration of life event for your family or loved one. It can seem overwhelming to think of everything that needs to happen in order to plan a celebration of life or funeral event, and we would like to be a part of the process to make it less stressful for you and your family.
There are so many details involved and you may not have the time or mental capacity to think about everything. One thing to keep in mind is that with the help of our friendly staff, you can focus more on honoring the memory of the deceased, rather than the little details that are involved in planning an event.
If you have questions or would like more information on our specific celebration of life, memorial or funeral service please call our phone number or visit our website. We would be happy to set up a time to meet with you at our location to discuss the details of your celebration of life event or memorial service.